This will probably be ever changing but these are a few books that saved my life!
While prego:
Happiest Baby on the Block-read it, memorize, practice it. Repeat. THIS IS GOLD.
Babywise-I did NOT however, wake my baby to eat. Unless they are NICU babies you don’t really need to and why would you? my opinion
First and second year:
Dare to Discipline by James Dobson
Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littaur
How to Make the Terrible Two’s Terrific by John Rosemond